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It can feel like a real risk to be who we are.
It can feel like a real risk to be who we are.
If we share the less wonderful parts of our personality with people, there is always a fear that they will reject us—that they’ll stop wanting to spend time with us, or that they’ll judge us.
Sometimes it can even feel risky to be honest about our good qualities. Instead of being proud of being a creative person, or a good decorator, we pretend instead that we’re terrible. We might feel shy about ‘boasting,’ or we might think that people will disagree with us and put us down.
Really being ‘who we are’ is the only place to start. When we can be honest with ourselves, it becomes possible to change for the better. We know where we’re starting from, and we don’t have to use up any energy hiding the truth from ourselves.
Here’s some suggestions that may help you become more honest about who you really are, a first step towards becoming a better person, a new and improved you.
A good start would be acknowledging the little fibs you tell yourself and other people about yourself. (Or the lack there of) You might notice that you boast about something that you have passion for but when asked to help someone do just that you find yourself running to the nearest exit. You avoid the offer, or you might retract and fib about your good qualities, protesting that you’re not really that good at styling even though everybody raves about how you put things together from your outfits to your house.
Don’t let yourself get overwhelmed take it one step at a time. You don’t have to confess everything to the whole world. Begin gently, by telling someone close to you that you’re worried about how others may reject the things that are dear to your heart. For instance how you decorated your house or some of your writings. Let it be known that the fear of disapproval bothers you more than you’re willing to admit. You’re fear of rejection keeps you from doing the things you truly want to do. Once you’ve told one person how you feel it’s easier to stay honest with yourself, to break free from the fear.
We know it’s braver and more respected to own up and admit when there’s something wrong than to pretend there’s not. Nobody is perfect. It’ll also make you feel much better a sort of weight-lifted feeling. Everyone has some sort of insecurity and friends will more likely trust you more by being vulnerable and making it known. We like it when people are honest with us, even if we wish things to be different. That’s what True Friends do, they Love you with all of your imperfections.
Remember that trying to hide something doesn’t mean other people don’t see it. Those closest to you should be able to read you. They will more than likely see what is behind everything you say or do that isn’t quite right, even if you thought it sounded pretty convincing. Why exhaust yourself trying to be seen a certain way when it’s often fruitless? It’s time to be honest with you and shed the mask of insecurity. Start living the life you love and love the life you live.
Don’t beat yourself up. We all make mistakes all the time, and get things wrong. We’re all human. Be kind to yourself. If you find this difficult, imagine that you are your own best friend. What would you say to your best friend if they were in your situation? Living honestly and in the moment is truly living not just existing.
Keep practicing. You could spend a few minutes every evening reflecting on how well you’ve managed to be yourself during the day. It would also be therapeutic starting a journal. You could explore this step by step and see your daily progress to the new improved You!
Giving ourselves permission to be what we are is a huge relief. Try it and see, you might be pleasantly surprised!
"Be strong
Don't give up hope
It will get hard
Cause life's like a jump rope...
You have to hold your head up high and
Watch all the negative go by
Don't you ever be ashamed to cry
You go ahead
Cuz life's like a jump rope"
Blue October
Thursday, March 10, 2011
Sunday, February 27, 2011
That Which Were My Insecurities are now my Inspirations
I was a kid who wanted to be beautiful, but more desperately wanted to feel loved. My self-esteem increased through the years, but I never quite shook the sneaking suspicion I’d ever be beautiful enough, or even lovable enough.
It would be easy to blame it all on society and the Kate Moss/Victoria Secret era of modeling, but I think it’s more than that. I just never learned to notice and appreciate all the beautiful things about myself. The stuff that has nothing to do with my waistline, height, skin tone or the shmiiiize in my eyes (as Tyra Banks would say) and everything to do with who I am.
I never learned to give myself credit for any of the good I did. I was too busy focusing on my weaknesses, mistakes, and flaws to recognize it.
It seems like such a cliché to say pretty is as pretty does, but the truth is physical beauty is subjective. And no matter how closely someone matches your ideal of physical perfection that will eventually fade. What endure are the qualities, passions, and habits we nurture.
That’s what makes us beautiful. Believe me when I say there is something beautiful in everyone. If you’ve done any of the following lately, you are absolutely beautiful:
Smile. As the quote goes, “I’ve never seen a smiling face that was not beautiful.”
Be there for someone who needs you
Give someone an Uncontrollably long hug just because
Admit a mistake, even if it’s hard to say you’re wrong, and work to make amends.
Make a sacrifice for someone you love.
Forgive someone without needing to hear the words, “I’m sorry.”
Make someone laugh. A smile can literally melt stress and pain away. How beautiful of you to do that for someone else! Never underestimate the power of touching someone’s heart.
Take the high road when someone hurts you instead if being cruel or catty.
Measure a person by their best moments, not their worst.
Give yourself the same courtesy–focus on the good you’ve done, not the mistakes you’ve made.
Find strength in a challenging moment. It’s not easy to do, and you deserve credit for it.
Acknowledge the beauty in others, instead of feeling threatened, jealous or competitive.
Keep an open mind instead of sticking with a judgment or assumption.
Accept and love yourself–“Learn to live with what you are.”
Be the voice of optimism when the people around you need it badly
Hear what someone means, not just what they say. Anyone can nitpick. Not everyone actively works to be understanding.
Honor the values that matter to you. Showing integrity is the first step to feeling good about yourself.
Treat people like you want to be treated.
Accept someone for who they are instead of trying to change them to who you want them to be.
Help a child feel good about him or herself.
Create something that helps people. A song, a blog, a support group anything that inspires.
Think positive thoughts and act with positive intentions.
Tell someone what you appreciate about them
There will be days when you may never be able to do any of the things I’ve listed above-in fact you might do the opposite. Even on those days you are still beautiful.
There are times when I’m having a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day. Times when it seems like I might get swept into the tornado of chaos around me. There are times when the voice in my head is unkind, and I interpret everything that happens through a negative filter. When I think the worst of people and complain about it; when I expect the worst of my day and mourn it.
Me admitting this might seem like the biggest possible acknowledgment of hypocrisy, but all I can do or will do is be honest. And the reality is I’m imperfect, I’m flawed. We all are. We all have moments of weakness-but they’ll only define us if they far surpass the moments of kindness, compassion, love and strength.
Being beautiful doesn’t mean sticking to some picture-perfect fantasy, or living every moment that way. It means realizing this moment is a new opportunity to be who you want to be, and making the effort to seize it.
I'm working very hard to take the positive route and overlook all that I've been dealt. This year i have vowed for it to be my year of Reckoning, accepting that which is in me that is good, inspirational, loving and above all else focusing on all that "I AM", not that which I am NOT!
I hope that the things I write here can become some kind of Inspiration to at least One person even if you don’t follow me I hope you can take the time to read. I know that I have been helped through reading other peoples blogs. If you stop by I just want to thank you ahead for your time .
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